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Developing Sound Social Relations.

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call that means they have something more important to attend to.

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers lending it to you. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you for lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ For god’s sake it isn’t your problem.

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. Doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

6. If you take a taxi with a friend, and he/she pays now, you pay next time.

7. Respect different political opinions.

8. Never interrupt people talking.

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again.

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say hope you’re ok. If they want to talk about it they will and you don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness.

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rudely you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.

17. Never give advice until you’re asked

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary.

19. Mind your own business unless anything involves you directly — just stay out of it.

20. Take off your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect and more eye contact is as important as your speech.
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Leave Pastors Alone!

For every 12 good men, there’s a Judas and for every 10 bad men, there’s a Reuben. Simply put, there’s always a guy with an ulterior motive amongst good guys and there’s always the guy with good intentions amongst the bad guys. For this breakdown, we will stick to the former as it is the best description of the state of Christianity today, especially in Africa.

It is undeniable that there are a lot of false teachers and preachers today. It is undeniable that some people who call themselves Pastors are just manipulative illusionists or straight up witch doctors in suits. However, it is also undeniable that most Pastors are actual Pastors called and sent by God to do what they do. Unfortunately we are at a time when the good guys are being gathered up with the bad and put under intense destructive criticism.

So the question now is, who is the good, who is the bad and how much criticism is good for them? Well there are scriptural indices we can use to distinguish between the right and the wrong but that’s not what this breakdown is about. This piece has a single purpose; to get us all to refrain from antagonising Pastors.

Any and every body who calls himself a Pastor is off limits. Leave hem alone. Let them be. Attacking them on any grounds is not your place. They hold a sacred position in the body of Christ and are directly responsible to God their boss. We can’t even attempt to discuss how much reference and honour we need to show Pastors in this piece; two things that are really deficient in the body of Christ today. The least we can do is to encourage you to refrain from criticising them.

Even if the Pastors are known illusionists and diabolic manipulators, you have no business calling them out. We are told in scriptures to stay away from them not to make it our mission to expose them. Keep your focus on Jesus, he’s all that matters.

If you genuinely feel that a friend or family member is being misinformed and manipulated by a false Pastor or a church, then the best way to help that person come to the knowledge of that description isn’t by speaking bad about the Pastor or the church. The best way is to help that person find Jesus for himself or herself. Bring them close to Jesus, teach them any time you can, show then scriptures to help them realise their errors not to counter their Pastor’s teachings. Just focus on Jesus and the light of God’s word will open his eyes.

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21st Century Nicodemus

The social media has become a place of ambush. People show up there, hiding behind handles, airing their opinions with reckless abandon. The latest antic is antagonising the church and their leaders. People who are not believers take turns bashing Pastors openly while church members who have been offended in some way carry out their own ‘bashery’ from the safety of their anonymity on social media.

However, one thing has been noticed in all these, from conversations with these people, it has been noticed that most of them are not lashing out because they are truly offended. They lash out as a result of frustration. It’s more like a defence mechanism. They do not do this deliberately, it’s a subconscious reaction, a cry for help, a reaction to a lack of understanding. The issues they chide the church over are usually the same issues they have been unable to rap their heads around and since they can’t comprehend these deep truths, they fight the system instead of seeking help.

Well it’s time the church learns this, that people aren’t receiving the truths, mostly because they aren’t being thought well and sometimes because they are being distracted by the spectacular instead of focusing on the supernatural.

Nicodemus was one man who knew there was something about this Jesus but he couldn’t ask for help like the rest of the people because of his religious status so he approached Jesus in the dark of the night to gain understanding.

This is what we have resorted to do these days. Instead of asking for help, we lambaste church leaders online and hope they respond with explanations the comment section. This is unwise. He that asks a question is a fool only for the duration of his ignorance because immediately he receives the answer, his foolishness is no more.

Don’t be afraid of asking about giving or tithing or sowing or sexual immorality or life or romance or science or any other subject. Even if the person will judge you while answering you or even speak condescendingly to you, put on your tough skin and receive understanding. After all, who says their opinion counts?

Please refrain from attacking the faith in public, it has no benefit to you, the person you are speaking to and the faith you are attacking. Notice that no church, whether good or bad, has been shutdown as a result of bad-mouthing. Bad publicity is still publicity and with that they can still thrive.

Please focus of Jesus, he’s all that matters.

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QB: No More Hustle

“The blessing of the Lord makes rich and adds no sorrow with it”. This statement is from the Bible; Prov 10:22 and from whatever translation it’s read from, it says the same thing “God’s blessing requires no hustle on your part”.

The average person in a human society is not only evaluated by his or her results, the work behind the results are also evaluated by members of the society. So the average man not only takes pride in his achievements, he also takes pride in the work even before the achievements show up. The average woman shows off her hard work even just as much as she shows off her successes. This automatically pushes people to work hard and push themselves and grind until results show, avoiding any strategy or process that will make people think they didn’t work for their achievements.

This is why you will always hear statements like “she’s hard working” and not “she’s smart working”. We never want to lose the chance of saying “I worked for everything I’ve got”. The pride that comes from making it big by your hustle is immense for the average person. It is the quest for this same pride and ‘dignity’ that has robbed people of their relationships with family and friends, led to divorce, kept them unmarried and unhappy, made them antisocial, made them lonely while within social circles, turned them to brash, harsh, irritable, unkind people, and in many cases led to suicides and suicidal tendencies.

Why go through all that hustle and labour only to get to the top and be alone and angry with the rest of life, when the blessing of God relieves you of unnecessary hustle? Why strive to be a self made man when, in truth, there’s nothing like a self made man? Why struggle to get to the top of the mountain only to realise that the rest of your life deficient?

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QB: How Long Will It Take?

Growth is a natural process in life. People tend to grow in various aspects of their life. Some areas simply grow in response to the growth in other areas. For instance, growth in age will usually inform growth in size and growth in academic/mental capacity, which may in turn determine growth in financial independence.

However, certain growths in the human life cannot be left to natural occurrence. This implies that there are some areas where deliberate efforts are required to cause growth. One of such areas, which is considered the most important area for growth is the Spirit man.

A lot of people fail to understand that the is a realm of the spirit an its reality is not just parallel to the physical realm but a determinant of the physical realm. Simply put, what you see in the physical is a manifestation of the spiritual. So, to effectively cause changes in the physical without going through the hassle of engaging physical laws, all you have to do is effect those changes in the spirit and in the process of time, those changes will manifest in the physical. If you do not understand the aforementioned process, then you are definitely in need of spiritual growth.

Let’s make it clear at this point that spiritual growth is not as mystical as people consider it to be. It does not requite floating in the clouds or frowning intensely all day, or generally being antisocial. Being spiritual is simply maintaining a level of perception beyond your natural sense organs. So living a spiritual life is living beyond the limitations of your natural senses.

For believers, this requires a mindset and lifestyle based purely on the word of God. So whatever you hear, see, smell, taste, feel, must be subjected to what God says concerning that matter and if those natural perceptions fall short of God’s word, then they cease to be your reality. A spiritual life is a life whose reality is strictly God’s word.

That being said, it is unfortunate that a lot of people fail to develop their spirit man. They don’t search to know what God says about their general life or their specific situations. They live life as a random walk and consequently they are subject to every and any antic of the devil.

Life just happens to them. They fall sick, spend a whole lot of money on medication and start practising weird restrictive procedures just to stay healthy even when God promises effortless divine health. They are scared of everything that can scare them even when God says he has not given us a fearful spirit. They hustle for everything even when the blessings of God have no sorrow (labour, hustle) attached to it. The cry helplessly at bad circumstances even when the spirit of God provides encouragement and they are superlatively amazed by miracles even when God says that signs and wonders will follow them if the just believe. But, in all these, they still have never tried to build stature and stamina in the spirit in order to live above limitations.

Instead of holding on to the infallibility word of God, they would rather live their lives as humanists, capitalists, feminists, democrats, communists, egalitarians, etc. They fail to realise that these man made ideologies are flawed and cannot sustain the human race. They have all been proven to fail over the years and therefore cannot be trusted, yet, people live their lives based on their tenants.

But one observation has been made across time and space; people eventually realise their failures to grow in the spirit. Some realise it early in life, accept God’s word and live fruitful, joyful lives. Some others get tired of fighting the word of truth and eventually yield to it but have little or nothing to do as they are now old and weak. The rest get to realise their failure to build their spiritual life right on their death beds. These ones end up dieing with regrets.

What category do you stand in? What category do you wish to stand in? Don’t let life spend valuable time beating growth into you. Because, honestly, you will have to grow…it’s a matter of time and willingness. The question is, will the cruelty of life have to coerce you into growth?

We hope this breakdown has provoked a chain of thoughts in your heart and we hope it ends up in positive changes. Feel free to share this with whoever, wherever and whenever. Also, let us know your thoughts, suggestions and questions in he comment section.

Grace…

QB: Don’t Blame God

We have come to a season in time where the blame game is being prioritised over solutions. People are now more interested in finding who to blame for every issue than finding solutions to these issues.

The husband blames the wife for their failed marriage, the wife blames her husband’s secretary for seducing her cheating husband, the rapist blames girls who put on revealing cloths, the people blame the government for bad leadership, the government blames the economy for poor indices, the bank blames the network for poor internet banking services, the kids blame their parents for their bad decisions….we could go on.

And then the blame game extends to God. We blame God for all the evil in the world. And as if that’s not enough, we blame Him when we don’t get what we pray for. We insist we had faith in Him, we insist we trusted Him and we believe we did all the necessary things to appease Him into giving us what we asked for. So when we don’t get what we asked and believed for, we blame God.

Mankind really needs to understand were we stand with God. Most of us have no idea how much prestige God places on us. In the Arab world, when an entourage makes a procession into a place or out of a place, the last person in that procession is always the boss, the leader, the decision maker. He or she may not be the spokes person of the entourage but no decision is made on any matter without the leader’s consent; this was the same with the creation process.

Notice that in Genesis 1, God introduced the boss on the last day before He rested, after He had set up every other thing. Man was created to lead, and manage the earth and it’s systems. To be emphatic, the reason God could rest was because He had put a boss in place who was mandated, empowered and capable of managing the affairs of the earth. After this, God brought all the other creations to man and asked him to name them so he could also partake in the creation process. And based on the hierarchy in the spirit, after God is man, then angels before the devil and his demons. So firstly, we must understand that we are in charge of things down here. Our words and mindset should reflect the authority we have. It is on this knowledge that we make God’s word work in our lives. God will not do that for us. He made the earth for us so the job of implementation and enforcement of his declaration falls to us.

In the last post, we came to the conclusion that our faith is not just our trust in God but out absolute conviction in the word of God concerning any situation. That being said, it takes two things to get results in life; God’s word and our faith. So if the results don’t come, the question becomes, “which of these two failed… God’s word or my faith?”. But trust me, is never God’s word.

Romans 10:10 makes it clear that by believing, we are righteous and by confessing, we are saved. this means that when we are convinced in the truth of God’s word we are right with God and when we confess our conviction, we obtain victory. So true and perfect faith flows from the heart to the mouth. But we must also admit that your conviction may change and your confession may also change but God’s word has never been known to change. All through scripture, we see that God’s word always came true when the faith of men were aligned with it. We also notice that even Jesus couldn’t do much when the faith of men were not matching up to the word of God.

We have mastered the practice of sitting on our hands and doing nothing simply because the word of God concerning a matter has been spoken, but that’s not how it works. We must learn to believe and confess constantly an consistently, whether it looks feasible or not, whether we see positive or negative signs…our conversation and our confession must march the word of God else, we won’t get the desired results. God has spoken, it is now left to us to bring his words into fruition. He will not do this for us. This earth was given to us and the power to manifest God’s word in the physical has been given to us so we must get to work with our faith otherwise, God is helpless in making his word work in our lives.

When we insist on the truth that God’s word isn’t to blame for the failures, we will learn to build our faith. God and His word have prevailed through time, eras, civilisations, kingdoms, empires, up till today so, be rest assured that His word never changes or fails. It is you and your faith that requires an upgrade to get results.

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QB: Why Your Faith Won’t Work

Simple…

You don’t have the conviction yet.

A lot of people think faith is just believing that stuff will happen. And when stuff doesn’t happen, they tend to lose faith in faith. Some people have become cynics and sceptics because they have not seen their faith work unarguably before. Some become totally secular and anti-God just because bad things happened to them despite their faith. But after proper evaluation, you realise most people don’t actually work their faith.

Having faith in a truth is different from accepting information. It’s one thing to accept that there is a concept called gravity. It’s another thing to believe in the existence of gravity. Accepting the concept means you can write or speak about it, pass an exam on the subject and even teach it to other people. Believing in he existence is seen when you refuse to jump off a building or cliff, knowing that you won’t fly but land fatally.

Faith that works is not just believing but having absolute conviction in the truth you know. This is why born-again Christians are referred to as believers. They believe the word of God. Outside the word of God, all you have is hope. For instance… Jim has no money to get back to his dorm room from class. He tells his friends of his predicament and begins to ask around for assistance while classes are in session. Brian tells Jim that he once was stranded too but some guy in the same class named Jake whose dad’s loaded, helped him out. Brian also tells Jim that Jake is quite a generous guy and wouldn’t think twice about helping him too. At this instant, Jim is hopeful that he wouldn’t have to sleep in class or walk into the night back home because there is a possibility of getting some financial assistance from Jake.

We can therefore say that hope is basically the result of a positive information or occupancy as concerns our need or desires. Faith however, happens when Jake, after being asked by Jim for some cash to get him home that night, tells Jim “no problem bro, immediately after our last class, I’ll give you a ride home”. At this point Jim has a word of assurance from Jake and therefore wouldn’t need to keep asking around for help. In fact, when people ask him how he’s going to manage for the night, Jim will simply say, “it’s been taken care of, Jake’s got me covered.”

So while our hope is in positive occurrences, our faith should be in God’s word. But what if something goes wrong with Jake’s car? Jim may feel dumb for putting all his hopes in this dude instead of having a plan B. But on knowing that Jake’s dad is loaded, he is rest assured that Jake still has him covered. This is the same with God, he has proven himself countless times in and out of scripture to earn you total conviction in his promise regardless of the circumstances surrounding you. So when God gives you a word, hold on to it with both hands and feet. Stop trying out other options or trying to assist God in getting it done. You’ll just be getting in the way.

So hence forth, don’t just accept the word of God, believe it totally so much so that it would take a whole lot to convince you otherwise. That’s when your faith works and even the world around you will begin to align with your faith just so your desires are met.

We hope this breakdown has provoked a chain of thoughts in your heart and we hope it ends up in positive changes. Feel free to share this with whoever, wherever and whenever. Also, let us know your thoughts, suggestions and questions in he comment section.

Grace…